my fears

We've (Clayton and Me) have been so much over the years, a miscarriage, seperation, infedelity, a divorce and many ups and downs and back and forwards. I've prayed and pleaded for the streagth to start over. so far we've been doing realy good. i've had to talk to him about my fears which isnt like me bc i keep it in. im scared he's going to cheat im scared he's going to change his mind and leave. its hard to over come fears that have already been a reality at one point in our relationship. i know that im not going to allow myself to find comfort in the arms of another man. i've made that mistake befor and i believe that is one reason we ended up seperating in the first place. i love clayton so much and i would never do anything that would bring us back to that point. im praying for his safty and im praying for the streagth to be the woman that he needs me to be

US Military tribute song is when your gone

ARMY WIFE CREED

I am the wife of an American soldier.

I am a supporter of the United States Army -

an encouragement for the protectors of the greatest nation on earth

Because i am proud of my husband and the uniform that he wears.

I will always act in ways creditable to him,

the military service and the nation he is sworn to guard.

i am proud of my husband. i will do all i can to protect

and provide for my family in his absence. i will be loyal to my husband

and to the vows that we made as we entered the covenant of marriage.

I will do my full part to carry on the values and goals we have set apart for our family

and i will continue to sinstruct our children in the same manner.

as a soldier's wife, i realize that i play a vital role

in my husbands decision to become a memeber of a time honored profession

that i am doing my share to keep alive the principles of freedom

for which my country stands.

No matter what situation i am in, I will never so anything for pleasure, profit, or personal safty,

which will disgrace my husband, his uniform or our country.

i will use every means i have to encourage my husband to be

the best soldier that he can be.

i am proud of my husband, my coutry and it's flag.

i will try to make my husband proud of the manner

in which i accept his decision to defend my freedom and

the freedom of all american citzens

for i am the wife of an American Soldier

Background

Me and Clayton met in July 2007 in front of a finance hall on Fort Sam Houston during our first week of dental assistant school for the united states army. From the moment our eyes met we were the it couple. He followed me into the main hall to insure that i made it safly to my friends side. I setteled into my seat and started to focus on the lecture, when i felt a tap on my shoulder. When i turned around to see who dare interupt a LT. during the lecture i found the fool that would adventually become my husband and in his hand he held a note. We wrote back and forth threwout the whole lecture and still to this day i still have no idea what that LT was trying to teach us. Within a hour we had our whole lives planned right down to the ranch on the border of Arkansas and Missiori. Two and a half months later we got married and a month after that we got married and a month after that he was in korea.

The first three months were slow and agonising. It was so hard to wait at home for his return everytime i heared his voice there was the sound of drunken fun and the suspicion of him cheating seemed to grow with each email or call. I would hear the girls in the back ground and it made me wonder if i was patiently waiting spending what was left of my young life, my life of freedom as a nieve little girl in love with one man who was inlove with other women. Befor Clayton i had only be in love with one man, i had only been physical with four men in a time and place where it was natural to have more than 4 lovers a week. I started feeling trapped and used and betrayed by a man that i swore to love and be faithful to. I made a mistake.

After I made a that mistake i made a choice to go active duty army so i could travel to Korea to try to make it work with my husband. During the tration i made another mistake and when i got to korea i relised my husband had been making his own mistakes. I tryied to forget about what we did but guilt and betrayle made me push my husband away and we ended up getting a korean divorce. There was times when all i wanted was to turn to him and tell him how much i loved him and how much i needed him but instead i turned to another man out of my foolish pride. It took two years befor we saw eachother again and reconsiled. Then he deployed to Iraq. I know it's going to be hard for the next year. There is going to be allot of lonly night while he's gone but i know that all of those lonly nights are going to pay off when he gets home. I know it's going to be so much better when we get to live in our own house, sleep in our own bed together.

I have insecurities and i know my husband is a man which means that he doesn't want to reinsure me every second of the day, expecially since he's in Iraq away from everything that he's used to. He doesn't need to know my insecurities because it might make him have his own. I don't want that. I want us to be a happy couple and i want to be with my husband Because i love him so much and i know that if we can make it thru all we've been thru we can survive it all together.